All is working, except the menu icons for apps that were already on the system, and in the 'Settings Manager'
Thinking it needed the icons in its "standard" location, I copied my icons from the REAL standard location, and tried again.
Still no icons.
Is there a command to make Xfce recognize the 'new' icons?
Yeah it's odd. I had the same problem but after a while, they appeared without doing any changes.
does "update-desktop-database" work ???