Is there a way to do this? I am not using thunar as my file manager and there is no way to alter the properties of those two icons, to point them to the file manager I'm using. I would like to remove them completely from my desktop.
Is there a configuration file somewhere that I can edit to get rid of them?
May be ~/.config/xfce4/desktop/xfdesktoprc ?
You could just disable the xfce desktop manager.
Go into options and remove the tick where it says "allow xfce to manage the desktop"
I did that and installed the Rox-filer which I like much better than Thunar, (it's so much faster, at least on FreeBSD it is)
Also by doing that now Rox-filer manages the desktop (it creates the desktop icons and the panel)
Which solved the problem of the unstable panels when Xfce was running the desktop.